One in five men said they had been asked, when requesting time off work for family reasons, where their wife or partner was. Translation: isn’t that her job? And perhaps, sotto voce: if in your house it’s not her job, what kind of man does that make you? Most of the other hurdles men reported – such as being challenged on whether the family crisis was really so urgent, or worrying that their boss would think less of them for asking – will be wearily familiar to most working mothers. But I’ve never been asked why I can’t just get my husband to do it all, in a way that implies there must be something wrong with me if not.